If you saw the emotional turmoil
portrayed in the movies War of the Roses and Kramer vs. Kramer,
you'd probably think twice about divorce. Unhappy individuals who
believe that ending their marriage would make them happier are often
living a myth.
Chances are that they've attributed the
failure of the marriage to their spouse, dispensing with
self-examination. Blaming the other instead of oneself becomes the
favorite pastime, the most convenient means to walk away.
By failing to accept their own
frailties, and not realizing that they've entered the marriage with
unreasonable demands and unrealistic expectations, they unconsciously
released the forces leading to a potential separation.
There's also the phenomenon of short
memories. For some reason, the same individuals who vowed to support
each other during their time of wedded bliss have forgotten their
commitment and vows to love each other through thick and thin.
Our modern society has indeed become a
disposable society. This is what Alvin Toffler had predicted almost
two decades ago. This state of "disposableness" is
reflected in our ability
to DELETE and PURGE and SHRED what we
no longer need.
And when our once beloved partner is no
longer of use to us, we call our lawyer and instruct him/her to
initiate divorce proceedings.
Funny, but despite its harrowing and
complex web, divorce has also become just a phone call away, a "to
go" solution that we can pick up on the way to cleaner's.
Truth is, is that divorce has an ugly
side to it. It's the easy way out for people who have not an ounce of
courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged.
Divorce un-builds and undoes what took
years to nurture, and sadly, often the only people who benefit from
it are greedy lawyers who will use every trick in the book to divest
the other of assets, until no remnant of the person's investment -
physical, monetary and emotional - remains.
While divorcing couples spend their
mental energies accusing the other of causing hurt and disharmony in
the union, they forget that the children suffer in double - triple
dosages. Couples forget that the sentiments of children are more
fragile and harder to mend. This is when the concept
of human selfishness and
self-centredness become transparent. It's odd how the true character
of people comes out when they're the actors in a divorce.
The determination not to be swayed by
the lows and downs of a relationship mirrors strength and integrity,
not to mention the ability to see beyond one's personal unhappiness.
And by saving the marriage, more than one human being is saved. This
is the essence of this ebook in your hands right now; perhaps the
most important that you'll ever read.
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